Sometimes, ideas for a blog entry come at the worst possible times. They were running through my mind today as I was taking some time alone to cry over my wonderful brother who we are losing to a brain tumor. He is 39-years-old and in palliative care. I don’t know if it is the rain or what, but today has been the worst for me since finding out a week ago that the tumor has grown and time is even more precious.
What kept running through my
head were the similarities between cancer and addiction and how our understanding of them has evolved over time. Why? I suppose it is because my brother has
one disease while my son has the other. Also, both diseases have caused our
family much stress over the years and I’ve researched them both to varying
degrees, trying to save two people that I love with all my heart.
One thing I’ve learned is that
both cancer and addiction are diseases that were very much misunderstood and
stigmatized at one time or another. Thankfully, it is no longer that way with most
cancers (unfortunately, some types still carry unfair stigma), which gives me
hope that addiction will one day be free of stigma, too, and that individuals
battling the disease will receive quality care as they would with any disease. And,
hope is what I need today.
In the early years, the taboo disease of cancer
was rarely mentioned in public because it was steeped in fear and denial. Physicians
sometimes did not tell their patients they had cancer, and patients often did
not tell their friends and families if they had been diagnosed.1
Addiction is still met with stigma, which is also
based on fear and denial. It is still seldom talked about (but there are a lot
of us trying to change that). It is
probably one of the most misunderstood diseases today, but one that almost
everyone thinks they know everything about. I was one of those people, until I
got up close and personal with it when it entered my home, and I began a journey of research and discovery in an effort to save my child!
In the 70s, it was widely believed that people
with a “cancer personality”—depressed, repressed, self-loathing, and afraid to
express their emotions—manifested cancer through subconscious desire. In other
words, they had bad attitudes that caused cancer. Some thought that treatment
to change the patient's outlook on life would cure the cancer. This belief allowed society to blame the
victim for having caused the cancer (by “wanting” it) or having prevented its
cure by not becoming a sufficiently happy, fearless, and loving person. 2
When this ridiculous notion was proven
otherwise, the public was educated about cancer in order to change these
harmful perceptions.
People are also blamed for their addictions. It
took a long time for brain imaging technology to come along but, because of it,
science has also proven this notion of continuous choice to be false with addiction.
Even with this important new information, there has been little to no public
education campaigns that share these new findings. This lack of information to
the public is why many people, maybe even you, still believe that addiction is
a moral issue. In order to build compassion and understanding around this
disease that is devastating so many of our families, a better job has to be
done in educating people. Lives depend on it!
There are many of us speaking out now through
social media and other channels to try to raise awareness and educate people
but we can’t do it alone. Just as the various cancer society groups have
advocated for their clients by educating the public, we need organizations
working with addiction to do the same but they need funding. We need to support
these organizations in battling what is one of the worst social and health issues facing
us today. Addiction is claiming many lives while we sit idly by not knowing
what to do. Many of these deaths are young people.
Thanks to the public awareness campaigns around
cancer, people began to understand the nature of the disease and how it can
touch any family. The public demanded
that the government invest more money into cancer research, and they invested
their personal dollars as well. Investments are still being made today. Now, thanks to the significant investment in
cancer research, there have been wonderful advancements in prevention and
treatment.
The advancements in cancer treatment have extended
my brother’s life by more than five years and counting. In January of 2008, he
was told he only had months to live. His wife was 8 months pregnant at the
time. The doctors tried a new drug that was known – thanks to research – to
slow the growth of brain tumors. If it worked, it would give him more time,
which it did. This extra time allowed him to see his daughter being born and
graduate from Pre-Kindergarten just recently. He also had more time with his
then eleven-year-old daughter. The extra time is a blessing.
When I look back at my brother’s journey, I
know whole-heartedly that he was provided the best possible treatment available
for his brain tumor. I know that as I sit here and type this, he is being well
cared for at one of our hospitals. This makes me feel good and at peace that
all was done to save him.
I don’t have the same level of certainty and
peace about my son’s journey with addiction. Anyone, anywhere, battling
addiction knows about, and have been devastated by, the many gaps in the system
that we didn’t know were there until we needed the services. There is a lot of
work to be done to fill the gaps before one more young person is laid to rest
from this treatable disease. The good news is that you can help!
For the most part, government invests money
where the people want it most, but we have to let them know what our priorities
are. You can help by simply contacting our Health Minister, Doug Currie, at dwcurrie@gov.pe.ca and our Premier, Robert
Ghiz, at premier@gov.pe.ca, expressing
your concerns about this addiction epidemic, and your desire to see something
done to help Islanders battling this complex and life-threatening disease. You
don’t have to send them lengthy emails (unless you are long-winded like I am).
Just a simple note will go a long way. Or, you can contact them another way.
The important thing is that you do reach out and make your voice heard.
Please join me and many of your neighbours in
making this addiction epidemic a priority. You will save lives. Many youth
(and others) who are lost to addiction need us to be their voices until such time that they
can find their own.
In closing, I am dedicating
this blog entry to my amazing brother who has made me laugh over the years in a way that only he could. He is someone special who I will miss for the rest of
my life. It is also dedicated to my son who has maintained 21 days of recovery
so far with his whole life ahead of him. I pray that he continues in recovery, and I am so grateful that his uncle got to see him getting better.
Sincerely,
Rose
Sources quoted:
1. American
Cancer Society Website
2. Wikipedia
My prayers to you and your family.
ReplyDeleteThank you for that wonderful and passionate letter Rose. I too have battled addictions and while in my recovery, I have witnessed many many deaths caused by this disease. The stigma is slowly receding but we need people like you to keep speaking out. I pray to my Higher Power that you are strengthened daily in your journey.
ReplyDeleteThank you Rose for speaking out, Im also a parent of a addict, with a simular story. I have recently had to see my doctor due to the overwhelming fear my daughter will die from her addiction. She says she is doing better, but along with addiction comes lies and its hard to trust when they are telling the truth. It is a sickening , helpless feeling watching the slow distruction.The provincial addiction program has also failed us. The program takes sthem in for 7 to 10 days get them feeling well and then throws them back out into the wolves only to fail.
ReplyDeleteYou are welcome. There are many of us out there fighting this very difficult battle, made even more so by the gaps in the system. Here's hoping that real improvements will be made so that our loved ones will have a fighting chance to overcome their addictions and reclaim their lives.
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